The Truth about Divorce & Dating


I don’t know how to date. It has been 15 years since I went on my last date, to say the landscape has changed would be a huge understatement. There are apps that you swipe if you find someone attractive, it is bizarre to say the least. Going on dates as a grown ass woman with a child is very bizarre. We all grew up with the values our parents the baby boomers instilled in us. Find partner, marry partner, have kids with partner, grow old and die with said partner.

Sometimes life has a different plan for us and we divorce the partner. People told me divorce was difficult, but there really should be a new word to explain it, because difficult isn’t even close. So, lets add the two things that are bizarre and difficult together at the same time, dating and divorce. Seems like a great idea!

It is all so different, you have kids they have kids and the schedules, OMG the schedules. It seriously takes some imagination to make a date happen. You ask… is this your weekend with the kids? Seriously hoping it isn’t because you are kid free and want to do something, literally anything. When schedules match up and you can actually go on a date it is like a fairytale, not the kind where there is a prince and princess. The kind where you get to go out without your child! Want to go to a concert on a Thursday? Sounds fun, and it is fun. But at the end of the day you are sleeping in bed alone.

That has taken some getting used to, having slept next to someone for over 14 years, you almost instinctively go to reach for them. The person, your person who you married, had children with suddenly isn’t your person anymore. The only conversations you now have with that person are about co-parenting. It’s weird as hell, like really seriously weird. I never knew my child having enough clothing at this house or that would be as big of an issue as it is. It is children clothing, why the hell does it matter? It doesn’t.

Nothing really matters except the well-being of your child, plain and simple. If they are okay you will be okay. Some days are worse than others, but at the end of the day just remind yourself there is a reason you left. There is someone out there that will treat you right, you just have to find him, and marry him. Kidding, just Kidding! Don’t know if I will ever get married again, at this point I can say there is no way, but you can never say never.


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LEGO Batman Movie Days @ LEGOLAND CA


Join SoCal Savvy Mom this weekend for The LEGO Batman Movie Days at LEGOLAND California Resort. We are calling All Caped Crusaders! LEGOLAND® California Resort is inviting children and parents out on February 17 to help bring to life the famous bat-signal used to call the dark knight of Gotham City, Batman.

The human bat-signal will officially kickoff the Family Theme Park’s The LEGO® Batman Movie Days, February 18-19 and 25-26. Guests will get to meet the LEGO super hero during this celebration of the Warner Bros. Pictures’ feature film, which also includes photo opportunities with the scene-stealing star, a themed scavenger hunt and LEGO Batman-inspired LEGO build activities.

***Be one of the first 500 people to attend the bat-signal event will receive a ticket to LEGOLAND California Resort. Attendees will also have a chance to win LEGO Batman product through LEGO Batman Movie trivia. The LEGO Batman Movie Days activities are included in the price of admission to LEGOLAND California Resort.

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Happiest Baby with SNOO


Everyone has heard of the Happiest Baby on the Block written by Dr. Harvey Karp as well as his other popular books, Happiest Toddler on the BlockHappiest Baby Guide to Great Sleep. With his years of experience in pediatrics it is no surprise he and his wife Nina Montee Karp invented the safest baby bed ever made. That is so incredible… the safest baby bed ever made! Let me get  back to the what SNOO is and why every baby should have one. SNOO boosts sleep with the soothing white noise and motion your baby loved, 24/7, before birth. SNOO responds to your baby’s fussing by increasing sound and motion just as you would if you were holding your child. It comes with a custom swaddle that keeps babies sleeping in the safest position on their back.

Last week we shared why we love SNOO on San Diego’s Fox 5 morning news on a segment for newborn babies. We started with the SNOO because I wanted to make sure everyone knows about this product. It is such a lifesaver for so many new parents. Sleep is the first thing to go after we have a baby and lack of sleep correlates to so many problems new moms experience including postpartum depression.

  • Gently rocks – all naps and nights – to help your baby be a better sleeper (up to 6 months)
  • Chooses the best motion (slow swing for sleep, faster jiggles for upsets)
  • Dual mesh walls maximize comfort, safety and breathability
  • SNOO’s easy “5-second swaddle” is hip safe and never unravelsProtective swaddle wings keep your baby safely on the back*
  • SNOO’s gradual weaning feature makes for easy transition to crib
  • Chooses the best white noise (soft rain for sleep, womb sound if crying)

Click here to visit Happiest Baby’s website to enter into win a SNOO!

Tech specs

  • Unique drivetrain designed for maximum performance; 10 million cycles of continuous movement
  • No springs or gears that can wear out or become noisy
  • Multiple microphones with advanced audio processing to precisely detect source of sound
  • Three distinct white-noise sounds specially engineered to calm crying or enhance sleep
  • 2.4 GHz wireless, 802.11 b/g/n with separate WiFi control switch
  • Custom BLDC motor optimized for low speed and high torque with multiple feedback mechanisms for precise motor control
  • Responsive ambient light sensor for adjustment of LED intensity
  • SNOO comes with organic fitted sheet and 3 SNOO Sacks made with organic cotton
  • Bed size: 30″ L x 16″ W x 32″ H with legs; Weight: 38 lbs
The Happiest Baby is so sure you will love SNOO there is a 30-day risk-free trial!If, within 30 days of receiving your SNOO, you are not 100% satisfied, call them and they will give you a full refund …plus pay for return shipping! Not to mention, SNOO comes with a 1 year warranty. What could be better than that? A happy baby, well rested parents = a happy home!

For more information on the SNOO visit Happiest Baby website here.

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Giveaway Disney On Ice – Worlds of Enchantment


To say our house is so excited for the new Disney on Ice Worlds of Enchantment would be an understatement. This show is sure to be a hit for everyone. Not only does is feature The Little Mermaid, my personal favorite, Frozen, but also Toy Story 3 and Cars!

My 3-year-old son is obsessed with Lightening McQueen and he can’t wait to see him, Mater and the rest of their pals race across the ice.

Ariel, Ana, Elsa, McQueen, Mater, Woody, and Buzz! What else could you ask for.

Be sure to arrive early. Mickey and his crew will have a pre-shoe dance along party to get you all warmed up for the main event.

At the Valley View Casino Center (former Sports Arena)

To purchase tickets go to or call 888-9AXS-TIX

Tickets start at just $15

Opening night is January 26 at 7pm.

The other Showtimes are as follows:
Jan 26, 2017  at 7:00PM

Jan 27, 2017 at 7:00PM

Jan 28, 2017 at 11:00AM , 3:00PM ,07:00PM

We are giving away a family 4 pack for Thursday or Friday night.

To enter our Giveaway for a family 4-pack of tickets visit our Facebook page here.

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do


Breaking up really is hard to do, especially when you have been married for 12 years and have a child/children together. Leaving might be the hardest thing I’ve ever done aside from losing my mother. The reasons why I left are not important, they are but time and place and this is neither. I felt I couldn’t get out that I wasn’t strong enough to just walk away, so I stayed in a relationship I probably should have left long ago.

I feel as women we take on the role of caretaker, nurturer, and supporter of our spouses. Sometimes in doing this we lose track of ourselves. Who we were before we were Mrs. XXXX or mom, we settle into this new role over time whether we intend to or not. That is exactly what I did, I got so caught up in being the perfect wife and mother I forgot who I was. My needs and wants came last so often I stopped needing or wanting anything.

My life had become lackluster, I didn’t look forward to anything except maybe that glass of wine at 5 pm. Everyday was the same and everyday I was unhappy, one day turned into the next and before I knew it I didn’t recognize myself. Who was this woman I had become and did I even like her?

Realizing that you are not the person you thought you would be is a hard pill to swallow. But I wasn’t dead, I still had a lot of life to live and I decided that is exactly what I would do. I started living the life I wanted, doing the things that I enjoyed and I was amazed. All this time I could have been doing these things but for some reason I thought they were out of reach, it was not out of reach I just wasn’t trying hard enough. Everything we want is there for the taking, you just have to be willing to work for it.

Our hopes and dreams should be talked about regularly so we don’t forget, and to keep those dreams alive. Talking about something and keeping it relevant is really powerful. Don’t say one day I’m going to do this, decide on WHAT day you are going to do it and go for it! Realize you are a lot stronger than even you know, don’t let people underestimate you, you have the power to change anything in your life. You and you alone have the power to make yourself happy, don’t give someone else that power.

I am not saying it has been perfect everyday because life isn’t but realizing that I had control over my own life was empowering. Finding out I had strength and determination I never knew existed has been the biggest difference. Being told you can do anything is one thing, actually doing those things is another. Go out there, grab LIFE, it is yours for the taking!

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SoCal Residents Disneyland is only $50 per day!


Another wonderful reason to live in beautiful sunny Southern California is the special offers from Disneyland this time of year. This has to be the best offer I have ever seen from Disneyland and I am buying! The Southern California Resident tickets include one Magic Morning** early entry to Disneyland park, which provides an extra hour of play on select days before the park opens to the general public.

This amazing offer comes just in time to enjoy amazing experiences at the Disneyland Resort! At Disneyland park, there is the return of the Main Street Electrical Parade on January 20 as well as Star Wars Season of the Force in Tomorrowland. At Disney California Adventure park, guests can join the party with the Lunar New Year Celebration, Jan. 20 through Feb. 5, and the popular Disney California Adventure Food & Wine Festival, March 10 through April 16. ***Wait, what? Wine & Food Festival, guess I know what days I will be going!***


Experience all of these attractions and entertainment, along with other beloved experiences at Disneyland and Disney California Adventure parks, with the 3-day Southern California Resident tickets, available for a limited time. Southern California residents must purchase tickets from Jan. 9 through May 22, 2017. Tickets expire after May 25, 2017, and blockout dates apply. Proof of residency is required for purchase and Theme Park admission. For restrictions, visit

Purchase your 3-day Southern California Resident tickets now at and print them at home!

disneylandFine Print:

* 3-Day Promotional Ticket:
Valid only for Southern California residents within ZIP codes 90000-93599 and Northern Baja California residents within ZIP codes 21000-22999; proof of residency is required for purchase and admission. 3-Day, 1-Park Per Day ticket is valid for admission to either Disneyland® or Disney California Adventure® park each day of validity, but not to both parks on the same day. 3-Day Disneyland® Resort Park Hopper® ticket is valid for admission three (3) days to both Disneyland® and Disney California Adventure® park on the same day. Each day of use constitutes one full day of use. Tickets expire May 25, 2017. Blockout days of 4/9/17-4/23/17 apply. May purchase up to 5 tickets per person per day with valid ID. Tickets may not be sold or transferred for commercial use. Offer may not be combined with other ticket discounts or promotions. Tickets not valid before 1/9/17. Subject to capacity, restrictions and change without notice.

**Magic Morning:
Magic Morning admission allows admission to selected attractions at Disneyland® Park before the park opens to the general public on Tuesday, Thursday or Saturday. Each Guest must have valid, eligible theme park admission. To enhance the Magic Morning experiences, it is strongly recommended that Guests arrive at least one hour and 15 minutes prior to regular park opening. Magic Morning admission is based on availability and capacity. Applicable theme park, days and times of operation and all other elements including, but not limited to, operation of attractions, entertainment, stores and restaurants and appearances of characters may vary and are subject to change without notice. Subject to restrictions and cancellation.

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