What do you do for a living?

All of us stay at home mom’s have been asked this time and time again.

So, what do you do for a living?

I’m a stay at home mom.

How many kids do you have?

Just my son.

O, really?  What do you do with yourself?

Generally when you have just met someone the polite thing to do is say well I also (fill in the blank, for me it is blogging) but what you really want to do is to tell them to go to you know what!  I know that sounds harsh, but I have chosen to stay at home.  It is not that I can not work or even don’t want to work it is that my son needs me more.  I understand a lot of families cannot afford for a parent to stay at home full-time, but mine can and no, I do not miss working.  I do not miss getting up at 5 a.m. to leave at 6 a.m. just to miss the traffic.  I do not miss being stressed out at night thinking “did I send that e-mail, or when was the deadline?”  I also hate the question don’t you miss the adult interaction?  I do not really understand this question.  I am an adult, my husband is an adult, our friends are all adults and I interact with them daily.  But I will answer it anyway… No, I don’t miss the bitch of a boss I used to have, the bitchy co-workers, and of course the office politics.  I do not miss being nice to someone I despise because they have stolen my ideas time and time again!

My favorite line from working moms is…  If I could stay at home, my house would be so clean, the laundry would be done, I’d go to the gym everyday, make dinner every night and everything would be perfect.  Guess what that is pretty much my life, my house is clean, my laundry is always done and my life is NOT perfect.  There is no perfect life, stay-at-home mom or working moms because there is no perfect world!  At the end of the day we are all the same, we are all moms!  We all want what is best for our children, for me that is being a stay-at-home mom, and for others it isn’t.  Just because I am a stay at home mom my life is not any less important than a working mom, regardless of how much money she makes.

Next time someone says they are a stay at home mom, please don’t respond with… what do you do all day? Because that stay at home mom regardless of how sweet she may be is not thinking nice thoughts about you.