Do you have children? Yes. How many children do you have? One. Do you plan on having more? No.
When meeting someone new especially another mom these are the questions most of us ask. What I do not understand is why it is okay to ask… Why are you not planning on having more children? That is a personal question between my husband and myself. Nonetheless, I do respond to the question. What I really feel like I’m doing is defending us for only having one child.
My husband is an only child, he loved being an only child. To this day he still says being an only child made him more creative, which lead to him being a graphic designer. I on the other hand grew up with two brothers one older and one younger. One of my brothers is 5 years older, with the age difference we didn’t play together too much. My other brother is 2 years younger, and we did almost everything together growing up. I am somewhat sad my son will never know the bond between siblings. Then my husband reminds me of sibling rivalry drama. His mother is one of four sisters and honestly I can never remember which sister isn’t talking to the other. One week we can’t talk to this aunt and the next it is a different aunt.
Family drama aside having one child enables us to travel more, our son had a passport at 8 months old. I know families with 5 kids and they travel, but for us buying plane tickets for that many children would be out of the question. Obviously we have other reasons for only having one child, the reasons however are very personal. I just wish I didn’t have to defend our decision, time and time again.
Are we the only couple with one child? And are you okay with that?